The Life of a Coaches Wife

I am always so hesitant to put in writing my views on being a coaches wife. I just feel as if it is a world that I have just begun to understand and take grasp of. I have so much to still learn about this profession and the role of supporting it but here are a few of my thoughts and experiences so far.

I am coming off of a short little season where I have been doing a lot of activities in the world of football. First off, I survived our first job shake up when we experienced a head coaching change at the end of this season, we went to the National Football Coaches of America Convention where I got to meet wives from all over the nation and we have been hosting our amazing recruits the past 3 weekends here in Boone where I mingle with families and future players and begin what will hopefully be real relationships.

Nothing is secure in this profession which I think is the hardest part for any wife and on top of that our husbands are extremely busy. But this year I got to feel that insecurity when the day after our season ended we also found out that our head coach would no longer be at Appalachian. In many professions...no big deal if the boss gets fired, your job is still your job, well....not in coaching. When the head man is let go most likely so are the rest of the coaches.This will not be the last time this happens to Nic and I but for the first time I feel like we handled it really well. Here are a few things that I think help me through such a time of uncertainty...

1. My trust is in the Lord. If we have to move I believe it is at God's will and that there is something extraordinary on the other side.

2. I trust my husband. He will always be the best coach he can be because it is in his nature. I trust that he is doing exactly what God has called him to do and I find no resentment in encouraging him to pursue his dreams.

3. You can't worry about something that has yet to happen. There is no need to worry about not having a place to coach or having to transition. The WHAT IF's in this profession are endless. I refuse to play the guessing game and I just take our challenges as they come. At that point it is to late to worry...only faith will lead you through it.

4. I am not in denial. I accept the ways of this profession. We will move. He will one day be fired. It is possible to be in a place I am not a huge fan of. He will be busy.

5. I am not only not in denial of the negatives but I focus on the positives. My husband is awesome, loving, passionate, and the greatest man I have ever known. He will be an amazing father. He will always take advantage of the time we have together. I am made to support someone like this and I find joy in it. God has blessed us. I am so excited for the adventure.

I have come across some bitter wives already in my experience as a coaches wife. I vowed when I married Nic to encourage him in his calling. I will do that till the day I die. And I trust him and I trust the Lord that he will always put family first. And as long as these things are in place I do not think I have anything to worry about. Everyone says I will change my mind when I have kids. I'll deal with that when it comes. But as a kid-free young coaches wife this is my time to lay the foundation for my time as a coaches wife. I believe in being a coaches wife I will have access to be apart of countless lives and play an encouraging role not only for my husband but these players and their families. This is Nic's ministry and as it is his, it is also mine.

So all in all my view is...being a coaches wife is a blessing. There are many other parts of who I am, but I still take the role with gratitude.

Just another piece of what I call my Journey :)

With Much Love,